It’s a family joke with us.
We picked it up from a friend who asked,
“What are the three most important words in marriage?”
Our immediate response was “I love you.”
We say those words to each other every day.
We’ve been doing so for more than 50 years.
But our friend said, “No, there are three better words.”
What you need for the long haul are these:
“You’re probably right.”
Family therapist Esther Perel puts it this way:
We started to need these words very early in our marriage.
On our honeymoon, to be exact.
Today is our golden wedding anniversary.
To celebrate it, we commissioned a 3-minute video.
We laughed as we looked at the final slides in this video,
which document our first argument.
Can you imagine what we argued about? The source is visible in the video.
Ten years ago, when we celebrated anniversary #40,
we wrote up some advice to young lovers.
This time, no advice.
Have you decided what made my face look so grim in the last of the honeymoon slides?
Does it remind you of any arguments in your life?
Just because I am not offering advice doesn’t mean you can’t!